Saturday, May 23, 2009

A lesson in Wisdom....

Friday morning Ethan had all 4 of his ~Wisdom~ teeth out. Prior to taking our seats in the dreaded waiting room, we were laughing almost to the point of tears...As we walked into Dr. Porters office a young woman who had just completed her procedure was escorted to her mother's car with gauze streaming out of her mouth...yet in a very humorous moment turned to give Ethan a big thumbs up as if to say...if I can survive this procedure so can you!.......we found humor in that very moment. So much so the entire office was laughing with us.

As we were waiting for his turn, we discussed in depth how silly is was to call these menacing teeth ~Wisdom Teeth~...what wisdom could or did they bring. The more Ethan argued his case the more I thought about Wisdom and the life lessons that help each of us in developing Wisdom in this life. As we talked...Ethan was more focused on the upcoming events of first laughing gas, needles, large gaping holes in the back of his mouth...I assured him...all would be well and the pain short lived.

Wednesday started as any other day...Early to rise, showers, breakfast, watching Cash Cab, dressing then out the door to school and work. Ethan woke up that morning concerned about a lingering soar throat and just feeling a bit under the weather. As the day progressed he felt worse. When he came to pick up my car at 3:30 he was running a slight fever but was still heading to work. I attended Emily Lewis and Brett Randall's wedding reception...GORGEOUS..and my word for the Newly wed Randall's is HOLLER! As I was driving home Ethan called me and told me he had come home early from work...Really not feeling well.

He jumped in the shower and I got some cold medicine ready for him. I heard him talking on the phone but didn't know who he was talking to. Ethan told me he had called the Bishop and asked him if he would come over and give him a blessing. What an amazing experience his blessing was for all of us. Much of the blessing spoke of the Stripling Warriors and the precision and exactness in which they learned and were taught obedience and to listen to their Mothers. Ethan was told his Heavenly Father loves him dearly and he is watched over constantly...and through his faith and obedience the Lord would heal him. When I think of the adversity of being a single parent....I see the great blessings that have come into my home through a loving Bishop, consistent home teachers and a host of friends who are so dear who live the gospel and set excellent examples for my kids. Wisdom....in knowing the Lord has and will answer the righteous desires of my young son's heart to be healed...so his teeth can come out when scheduled. The Wisdom of a great Bishop who is constantly in touch with Ethan and Kylie understanding how limited family support is. Our dear friends who exercise their Wisdom in knowing its a visit or phone call will make all the difference in our lives that day. Wisdom in knowing we are never alone to face the challenges, heartache and trials that define who we really become...very much like a refiners fire.

I was so thankful for an amazing Bishop who understood that Ethan's request was timely and of the utmost importance to him. Bill Mellyn who is always right there to assist as well. That night as I knelt to express my gratitude..the tears came in complete free fall. The Lord had extended a much needed tender mercy...a miracle of healing....to a 17 year old boy who for the first time pick up the phone to enquire of the Lord through his Bishop.

As I held his hand while Dr. Porter administered the anesthetic and Ethan drifted off to sleep..I embraced the Wisdom I have acquired in past 10 years. What a privilege its been to raise my children. What sweet memories I will always hold dear of telephone calls, school projects, dances, friends, church activities, dates, just day to day living and those heartfelt late night conversations that become most treasured. Wisdom in looking back to see the hand of the Lord with me as a constant companion even when I thought I was alone. Wisdom in understanding the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships and the courage to change those patterns. Wisdom in enjoying the little things that make life so grand. Wisdom in knowing: When the voice and the vision on the inside, become more profound, and more clear and loud, than the opinions on the outside, you’ve mastered your life. — Dr John Demartini

It's amazing how 4 little teeth can have such an impact on our lives, our faith, prayers, gratitude, joy, bliss, unconditional love, communication and experiencing miracles....

When Ethan wakes up and is feeling better I will share with him my lesson in Wisdom.

My cup is overflowing....

Carla

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

I'm not in Kansas anymore....

as my plane about blew off the runway as we made a bumpy landing into Sky Harbor late Monday night.....I just returned from spending a long week end with Cori and Brett in Maryville Missouri. We had a great time....talking, laughing, catching up on hugs, kisses and driving around the Albers new community...What a fabulous little town...rolling hills, gorgeous green trees, lush lawns, fragrant lilac bushes...and cute homes. Cori and Brett are settling into a darling home, the perfect home for their family. We spent sometime in their hot tub...which was awesome...you would have thought someone threw a bucket of stars into the sky....on that clear night. I was privileged to experience a Thunderstorm Missouri style....and much cooler weather....More importantly I savored every minute of conversation with Cori. She has grown into a beautiful, confident woman who has extraordinary talents. She puts her talents to work everyday.

I was able to just wind down and enjoy myself.. Its amazing what a few restful days can do to renew one's spirit, clear the cobwebs from ones mind and come home refreshed and ready to accomplish my dreams. I am so grateful for my children. There is no feeling like being close to your children....hugs, kisses, girls day out....we had a blast. I feel rested and at peace knowing the Albers are thriving each and every day. Cori is doing so well. She is getting back into the routine of her busy life and schedule. Brett and Cori are both pretty big deals at their new store. Both have huge responsibilities....they are thriving....

What mother doesn't love her daughter spoiling her by cooking her favorite things...and if she is not cooking a few of mom's favorite things then at least driving her to Taco Johns for a Taco Bravo....Yummy!

I am so very blessed. No doubt about the constant stream of heavenly blessings and tender mercies flowing from above to me and my children. Almost feels like a constant shower of love, peace, good health, humor, forgiveness, acceptance, friendship, great communication and family. All of the ingredients mothers gently fold into their family mix, all tried and tested...

Tonight is Emily Lewis's wedding reception. Kylie is a brides made...I need to get ready to go and see her....

Blessings......(and yes Ben....save me a piece of chicken)

Carla

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Heavy Hearts....

Tonight as I collect my thoughts, I am reminded how quickly life can and does change. Cori called..last Thursday morning, as I answered the call, I knew the instance she said ~Mom~ something was terribly wrong. In a split second I had played out every scary scenario in my mind as to what could be wrong. As she spoke, tears flooded my eyes, rolling down my cheeks splashing to the floor below me. She has lost the baby....I was numb. I could not get my heart let alone my ears around what she was saying to me. We cried together as she recounted the events of the past 7 days. My heart ached for her..Kylie was home with me. She quickly came into my room as she put the pieces of our conversation together. The tears came for all of us. My concern for Cori was not just of her loss, her heart was experiencing pain she had never know. I was also experiencing pain and a loss I had never felt. I was devastated. I was desperate to take this pain from Cori...and I was helpless to do so....What a yucky position to be in.....

As we talked about the events and the outcome of losing the baby, Cori was listing her blessings. Cori and Brett share more than a last name, check book and a postal address. These are two amazing young people who understand the difference between an ordinary marriage and an extraordinary relationship where unconditional love, fidelity and communication are just three of their best traits. They understand the eternal perspective of love, life and family. Brett is so Prince Charming, he never misses an opportunity to express his love and devotion to Cori in word and deed. Cori is first to reciprocate his love and devotion, she also fills his life with so many little extras that make life so grand. They have rallied around each other...they are healing their heavy hearts and planning for their family. I am cheering them on...as are so many. My dear friends who have been such a part of Cori's life, reached out with phone calls and cards. What a blessing to have such a solid and unconditional support system.

As a parent I couldn't be more pleased with the choices of companions my children have made. Sunday evening Griffin and Jackie came over to make dinner. I so enjoy my time with them. I am so proud of the fine man Griffin is. Jackie is precious and has brought a new life to Griffin. Kylie is dating Evan...it's been so fun to watch their relationship blossom. I really appreciate Evan. Ethan is a chick magnate....and a wonderful young man. Its the best...to have great relationships with your kids and know they feel the same in wanting to build their relationships with me.

As we met on Sunday, my cup runneth over....I was smiling as I laid my head down taking an inventory of my amazing blessings. Griffin, Jackie, Cori, Brett, Kylie, Evan, Ethan and his friends. There are always going to be bumps in the road, thunder storms, grey sky's and bouts of adversity....and just on the other side is the rainbow...

Having the courage to walk directly into the path of the storm having the faith to know that just on the other side of that raging storm is a beautiful field of green and calm...and of course the Rainbow.. the constant reminder that God is ever present and more importantly He always keeps his promises.

We no longer feel that heaviness in our hearts. We are excited to see what the future holds. Cori continues to unpack and settle into her new home. She is still working to finish the baby's room. She knows she will blessed with children. She has great faith.

I am leaving for Missouri to spend a very long week end with Cori and Brett. I can't wait to take that little daughter of mine into my arms and give her BIG Loves...and Bigger Squeezes......we always play as we are getting ready to get off the phone...one of us will start with....I LOVE YOU MORE.....Followed by...THAT CAN'T BE I LOVE YOU MORE...this goes on for a couple of minutes...then concludes with I love you the very most.

Cori I am on the way.....keep the light on...see you Thursday.

Mom

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Friday May 3, 1985......

It started as a very normal day...over cast in the Salt Lake Valley actually raining with that spring chill in the air. I was expecting my second baby towards the end of the month. I was feeling tired and very pregnant, what a great day to stay in and curl up with a good book. Then my day took a most interesting turn...contractions started ...my cause for concern was with the intensity and minutes between which my pains came. At the time my husband was a student who was home getting ready to head out the door for his class, it became very apparent as I hung up the phone after talking to my Doctor we were headed for the hospital. Alta View Hospital was about a 25 minute drive as we were living up at the University of Utah...As we went outside to get in the car the rain really started to come down...cold, rainy and dark....and our car would not start...Lucky our friends were home and willing to let us use there car..

Off we went. My thoughts turned to the baby. Within a short period of time I would no longer be pregnant but would be holding a little treasure. As I tried to get comfortable in the car I felt the aches and pains of the flu coming on. Needless to say one of the longer drives in my life. I always felt better maybe even relieved to hear Dr. Hansen's calm reassuring voice...of all would be well. I encountered many complications which hindered my ability to deliver the baby, a very quick decision was made to start the prep for a C-section. I was not feeling well at this time but never felt anxious. I was excellent hands. Once the team had assembled for surgery they wheeled my off. The next thing I recall was the ah's from the team....and Dr. Hansen telling me she was gorgeous, healthy and came equipped with an amazing pair of lungs....

So entered Cori Ellen Schmidt into the world on Friday May 3, 1985. She was beautiful...olive flawless skin with jet black hair....she was amazing. She was born with a couple of minor complications so off to the neonatal nursery she was whisked.

Today we celebrate a milestone of 24 years...of amazing growth, development, personality plus, a contagious laugh and a zest for cooking and life. Cori came into this world almost knowing what her life's mission was. She is strong, yet filled with compassion for others, animals and especially grandmothers. She is willing to step outside her comfort zone to pursue her dreams. She will always be willing to stand for the right and for those who can't stand for themselves. She is a natural born leader...and a wonderful daughter, friend and companion.

When she was visiting last June her and I were walking through Scottsdale Fashion Mall when she suggested we window shop at the Tiffany store. As we walked in she asked the woman behind the counter if we could take a look at the heart bracelets...we laughed and tried on every last one...then in a very unexpected move...she looked at me with tears in her eyes and said..."Mom were are taking this heart bracelet home for you." I was stunned. She quickly looked at the woman helping us and said....she will wear it...here is my card.... She then put her arm around me and said...."Thank you for everything mom...Brett and I love you!" A great moment for me...Thank you Cori...I have yet to take off that precious heart bracelet from you.

I am so blessed. I have enjoy every minute of those 24 years with Cori....some moments hard, some moments we disagreed, some we were at odds...most moments are filled with closeness, caring and love. We have shared many good time, great girl conversations and many great belly laughs.

Cori is on the same path I was on 25 years ago with her. She is starting her own family...there will be a little Albers who will come into this world set on making it a better place. A little soul who will be courageous, strong, filled with compassion, direction and determined to make life all it can be....an extension of my daughter.....

Friday May 3, 1985 was a blessed day.....It was the day Cori came into my life.

Happy Birthday Cork a doo......

WE LOVE YOU!

Mom, Ethan, Ky